Our mission is dedicated to empowering survivors of domestic violence, intimate partner violence, and sexual assault by delivering holistic, immediate, no-cost, and confidential services. We believe every survivor deserves safety, support, and a path to independence.

A world where every survivor of abuse is empowered to heal, thrive, and walk boldly in their purpose – free from fear, full of hope, and surrounded by unwavering support.

From Pain to Purpose.

From Surviving to Thriving.

What is domestic abuse?  

Domestic violence can take many forms. Domestic violence can affect anyone from any background and any identity. Domestic violence can include psychological, sexual, economic, emotional or physical abuse, coercive or controlling behavior, so-called honor-based violence or forced marriage.

Sometimes it can be hard to recognize abuse when you are living through it. These questions may help you identify whether you are experiencing domestic violence.

Does your current or former partner and/or family member:  

• Call you names, humiliate, criticize, or belittle you?

• Threaten to harm you or others around you, including pets?

• Control you financially?  

• Use physical violence against you?

• Stalk or harass you, including online or via phone?

• Limit or control your movement or monitor your whereabouts and communication with others, including contact with friends, family, community, education or work?

• Accuse you of cheating on them or act excessively jealous?

• Use substances to control or harm you, or blame their alcohol or drug use for their abusive behavior?

• Damage or withhold your belongings?

• Use your race, ethnicity, immigration status or disability against you?

• Pressure or force you into marriage without your consent?

• Try to minimize their behavior or blame you for their behavior?

• Threaten to harm themselves if you leave or seek help?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be experiencing domestic abuse. You do not have to face what’s happening alone.

Domestic abuse can include, but is not limited to, the following:

• • Physical abuse

  • Psychological and/or emotional abuse

  • Coercive control

  • Financial and economic abuse

  • Sexual abuse

  • Tech abuse

  • Harassment and stalking

If something doesn’t feel right in your relationship, it probably isn’t. 

An abuser may say things like ‘I didn’t mean it’, ‘I was having a bad day’, ‘It only happened once’ in order to justify or excuse their hurtful behavior. This might make you start doubting whether your concerns about your relationship are valid. If you’ve heard of any of these before, it could be a sign of an unhealthy or controlling relationship.  

Another sign of an abusive relationship can be if your behavior has changed because of how your partner treats you or your children. Perpetrators often create justifications for their actions, which they use to place blame on survivors and to take away any responsibility from themselves.  

We’re here to tell you that perpetrators alone are responsible for their actions. We’re here to support you and help you to explore your options, because you deserve a kind, healthy relationship where you don’t feel trapped.   

A healthy relationship should be a loving, respectful place with values like support, freedom, happiness, and consent at the center.   

We know talking to someone else about your personal life can be hard but getting in touch with us can be your first and most important step. 

When you contact us, we promise we will: 

• Never judge you or what you say 

• Always have a fully trained female support worker available 

• Give you space to explore your options 

• Support you to make safe choices for you and your children 

• Keep everything you tell us confidential 

Sexual assault can take many shapes and sometimes our sexual or romantic orientation and/or gender identity may be used as part of the abuse. Here are some examples that may reflect your experience: 

• Sexual harassment and sexual touching

• Rape, non-penetrative and penetrative sexual assault

• Non-contact sexual crimes, such as grooming and indecent images of children, forcing people to do sexual things to themselves, and sharing sexual images of an adult without their consent (sometimes called ‘revenge porn’).

• Unwanted advances or force you into sexual contact or unsafe sex

Sexual abuse and violence can take place within relationships or between family members and can often be a part of domestic abuse. If you consent to something because you are afraid or you have been pressured into it, it is not consent. Some examples of sexual abuse are: 

• Rape or sexual assault. This can be any sexual act you did not consent to. It can include forced kissing, touching, or penetration. If you have experienced this recently, find advice on getting treatment and support here.  

• Having sex with you when you are unable to consent, for example if you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol which may affect your ability to consent. 

• Using force, threats, guilt, manipulation, or intimidation to make you perform sexual acts.  

• Forcing you to have sex with other people or to become a sex worker. 

• Forcing you to have sex or watch pornography in front of children. 

• Degrading you during sex, such as calling you names, spitting, biting, punching or hurting you. 

Intimate partner violence refers to behaviour within an intimate relationship that causes physical, sexual or psychological harm, including acts of physical aggression, sexual coercion, psychological abuse and controlling behaviours. This definition covers violence by both current and former spouses and partners.

Intimate partner violence (IPV) is abuse or aggression that occurs in a romantic relationship. Intimate partner refers to both current and former spouses and dating partners.

IPV can vary in how often it happens and how severe it is. It can range from one episode of violence to chronic and severe episodes over multiple years.

IPV can include any of the following types of behavior: 

• Physical violence is when a person hurts or tries to hurt a partner by using physical force.

• Sexual violence is forcing or attempting to force a partner to take part in a sex act, sexual touching, or a non-physical sexual event (e.g., sexting) when the partner does not or cannot consent.

• Stalking is a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention and contact by a partner that causes fear or concern for one's own safety or the safety of someone close to the victim.

• Psychological aggression is the use of verbal and non-verbal communication with the intent to harm a partner mentally or emotionally or to exert control over a partner.

There are some kinds of domestic abuse that can be based on your orientation or gender identity.

These can include:

• Threatening to disclose your romantic or sexual orientation, gender identity, gender history, or HIV status without your consent 

• Coercive and controlling behavior around your romantic or sexual orientation and/or gender identity

• Pressuring you to keep your identity or relationship secret

• Denying that LGBT+ people in intimate relationships can experience domestic abuse

• Isolating you from family, friends, and the LGBT+ community

• Undermining your romantic or sexual orientation and/or gender identity

• Using your hormones or gender-affirming medication to control

• Trying to change or suppress your orientation or gender identity

• Intentionally use the wrong pronouns

LGBT+ people may be manipulated into believing that there is no help available to them because they are LGBT+.  They may also be told that abusive behaviors are ‘normal’ in LGBT+ relationships, or that LGBT+ cannot experience domestic abuse. Abuse from family members is sometimes not recognized as abuse and written off as a ‘family dispute’ or having ‘different values’.  

LGBT+ people experiencing domestic abuse might feel that domestic abuse services are not for them or may not understand what has happened to them.

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Understanding LGBT+ experiences of sexual violence

We understand that the words around sexual violence are difficult ones and can by triggering for survivors. We can help you understand the words that might be used in other contexts, for example if you report to the police or attend a sexual assault referral centre.  

We are mindful that the law does not call sexual assault by one women against another ‘rape’ (it is called serious sexual assault). For some women, this feels like their experience is viewed as less serious by the law. We don’t take it less seriously; we understand the impact of sexual violence by women and we will use the words you want to use. If you want to name your experience as ‘rape’, we support you to do so. If you decide to report to the police, we will help you navigate this process to ensure the impact of your experience is understood.

We also understand that sexual violence experienced by LGBT+ people can be motivated by homophobia, biphobia, transphobia and acephobia. It can be perpetrated by non-LGBT+ people or it can happen within LGBT+ relationships and communities. We know how sexual violence impacts on LGBT+ people’s sense of self, identity, relationships and community, as well as the individual response to trauma.  

Supporting survivors doesn't have to be complicated. A financial gift — at any level — goes directly toward the emergency services that help women escape dangerous situations and begin to rebuild. You can also donate tangible goods to our pantry: nonperishable food, clothing, hygiene items, and household basics that we place directly in the hands of women who are leaving with little more than the clothes on their backs. Two simple ways to give. One powerful impact.